Very sad day…..

goinoregon said:
ouch. good luck with this . many of us have gone through this, at various points in life. i found therapy to be very helpful.
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I did too. Therapy . Great listener and Martha and I managed 37 years until 2012. I found my writing poetry intensely for a while pulled me together . I wish your well in the journey toward stability. It took me a while but I have to say what a learned journey
 
Bambooflyguy said:
Well…..second saddest day today. We met and signed the divorce papers. Reality is setting in on me. But, it is what it is and now I can focus on moving forward to see what life has in store for me. 2026 has to be better! I’m counting on it. Thanks for all of your support! Now give me some hotties phone numbers……
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So sorry to read this. Have no idea what it must feel like. 😔
 
Bambooflyguy said:
Well…..second saddest day today. We met and signed the divorce papers. Reality is setting in on me. But, it is what it is and now I can focus on moving forward to see what life has in store for me. 2026 has to be better! I’m counting on it. Thanks for all of your support! Now give me some hotties phone numbers……
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Not pleasant at all went through it 13 years ago after 37 years. It is things in life that change you for the better… really!
 
Bambooflyguy said:
Well…..second saddest day today. We met and signed the divorce papers. Reality is setting in on me. But, it is what it is and now I can focus on moving forward to see what life has in store for me. 2026 has to be better! I’m counting on it. Thanks for all of your support! Now give me some hotties phone numbers……
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good luck bud. been thru this, a .... long time ago. have lots of advice, but will limit it to - dont make BIG life decisions for awhile. and, just from my history, try not to drink tooo much, at least when out and about. :)
 
goinoregon said:
good luck bud. been thru this, a .... long time ago. have lots of advice, but will limit it to - dont make BIG life decisions for awhile. and, just from my history, try not to drink tooo much, at least when out and about. :)
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Too late….got a good buzz now at home, trying to cope with it……time will tell. But thank you!
 
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goinoregon said:
good luck bud. been thru this, a .... long time ago. have lots of advice, but will limit it to - dont make BIG life decisions for awhile. and, just from my history, try not to drink tooo much, at least when out and about. :)
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Me too. Unfortunately.

Great advice too!

As I indicated in @Evan B 's thread, physical activity also has positive 'side' effects on depression and mental thoughts. Something to consider...
 
No advise, just commiseration. I'm on Wife #3 - lost #1 to divorce (got pregnant and married way too young), became a single parent, lost #2 to cancer (she was 39), single parent again. Wife #3 and I are now in year 28. Life throws you curve balls, but every once in a while, it's a hanger, you belt it out of the park, and it feels ooooh so good. Hang in there Sir.
 
Yesterday was probably a gut punch. Self medicating with alcohol can feel alright in the moment, but everyone whose been there knows it isn't sustainable. Add in plenty of physical activity; it really does help. And know that you'll come out OK on the other side, new hotties or not.
 
Bambooflyguy said:
Well…..second saddest day today. We met and signed the divorce papers. Reality is setting in on me. But, it is what it is and now I can focus on moving forward to see what life has in store for me. 2026 has to be better! I’m counting on it. Thanks for all of your support! Now give me some hotties phone numbers……
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Well... remember there are 2 sides to a door, so when you leave one side look for the good in the other side... as hard as yesterday was always find one good thing about every new day!

Steve you don't need a "hottie" you need to be honest about who you are, to yourself, then be totally honest with who ever you meet next. Be honest about your passion for fishing and the time you need to replenish your soul. After my divorce (where I had given up hunting and fishing to make the marriage work) I coined the phrase "I will never suppress my excellence for anyone ever again!"... fast forward I meet my current wife, she will tell you her first impression was "what an ass", that was 31 years ago. Part of it was I was honest always with her about who I really was, and she understood I needed times in the woods and water and when I was home I was always present and have my all to get and the family.

I know good things await you in this coming year!

Stay positive and Many Tight Lines!
 
Brute said:
Buy a used decent a acoustic guitar…I've been through what you are going through now…blues guitar helped me a lot…and it still does
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I actually used to play guitar as a teenager……was getting pretty good until my great teacher committed suicide after having a bad stroke. I was so bummed out I quit playing. Still have my acoustic and electric guitars. I’ve been a blues fan forever, listening to R&B now reminds me of my situation….”Steve’s blues” My right wrist is fused so that makes it difficult to play….so I play the radio nowadays. And our son’s name is Stevie Ray! Thanks Brute for the suggestion!
 
Bambooflyguy said:
I actually used to play guitar as a teenager……was getting pretty good until my great teacher committed suicide after having a bad stroke. I was so bummed out I quit playing. Still have my acoustic and electric guitars. I’ve been a blues fan forever, listening to R&B now reminds me of my situation….”Steve’s blues” My right wrist is fused so that makes it difficult to play….so I play the radio nowadays. And our son’s name is Stevie Ray! Thanks Brute for the suggestion!
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SRV is in my top five all time…IMG_7660.jpeg
 
Bambooflyguy. A lot of the old blues guitar players used a nylon six string, twelve fret, "classical" guitar. The right hand did its thing, but the left hand held the magic. Personally, I hated a guitar pick, but using one with a steel string did make some nice music.
 
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