Very sad day…..

Bambooflyguy said:
Well just like my 111 days sober and AA…..a new chapter begins. I was staying off alcohol for me, her and our future. Since that’s all changed, there’s no rhyme or reason for me not to drink…but even in more moderation. Everyone is some form of alcoholic, whether social or black out drunk. Knowing your limits is key. Now that I’m older there’s no reason to party hearty anymore. Even after the phone call yesterday, I said two shots of Crown for comfort and that’s all I had. This morning a little Baileys in my coffee……man I missed that! I’ll go day by day and see what the next day has in store for me. Once again, thanks to all for the support! I really appreciate you.
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You say you were staying off alcohol for you, in addition to her and your shared future. Don't forget the "you" part! I'm no preacher and you'll make your own choices, but if you want support for a decision to stay sober, I support it!
 
Wasn't sure if I should mention, but in my case I resorted to drinking much heavier than I should have. A friend pointed out that pattern wasn't sustainable. He was right, hence my comments about adaptability and resilience.
 
Salmo_g said:
Wasn't sure if I should mention, but in my case I resorted to drinking much heavier than I should have. A friend pointed out that pattern wasn't sustainable. He was right, hence my comments about adaptability and resilience.
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I take all responses to heart and appreciate all. We are all unique individuals with different tolerances. Being 69+ now makes it easier for moderation in most aspects of my life. Too F’n old to go crazy…..🤪
 
Very sorry to hear of your struggles. I went through similar pattern 40 years ago, decided my genetics coupled with my father’s death at age 54 from alcohol helped me decide to quit. I heard it the other day, “Alcoholism is a self diagnosis issue.” I also found that my recovery led to discovery. There were many more issues to address than my daily consumption of alcohol.

Best wishes and prayers on your continued journey.
 
Always hard to hear, wishing you the best years possible going forward.
There is an increasing rate of divorce among older/senior adults. And a hard truth is that alcohol is always a burden on the person not drinking in a relationship, with the divorce rate for alcoholics nearly 50%.
Not judging, just have personally witnessed this dynamic among family and friends
 
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I am so sorry you are going through this. I too am praying for both of you in the times ahead.
 
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